Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Before Motherhood

Before I was a Mom;
I made and ate hot meals,
I had unstained clothing,
I brushed my hair every day,
I had quiet conversations on the phone,
I slept as late as I wanted and I slept all night long.

Before I was a Mom;
I cleaned my house each day,
I never tripped over toys or forgot lullabies,
I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous,
I had never been puked on, pooped on, spit on, chewed on, peed on, or
pinched by tiny fingers.

Before I was a Mom;
I never thought about immunizations,
I never held a screaming child so the doctors could give shots,
I never looked into teary eyes and cried,
I never felt my heart break into pieces when I couldn't stop the hurt,
I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin.

Before I was a Mom;
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put it down,
I never sat up late hours of the night watching a baby sleep,
I never got up in the middle of the night to make sure everything was okay,
I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby.

Before I was a Mom;
I had complete control of my mind, my thoughts and my body,
I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside of my body,
I didn't know that having something so small could make me feel so
I had never known the warmth, the joy, the love, the heartache,
the wonderment, or the satisfaction of being a mom.

Before I was a Mom;
I never knew that something so small could effect my life so much,
I never knew that I could love someone so much,
I never knew I would love being a Mom,
I didn't know the bond between a Mother and her child,
I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much.

Friday, October 2, 2009

Persuit of Perfection

Monday it begins, the unrealistic pursuit of perfection. The proverbial hamster on the wheel.
Exercise Mon-Friday without fail.
Drink more water, eat 5-6 small healthy meals each day.
Read my Bible and pray.
Spend time with my spouse in romantic mode not grouchy wife mode.
Spend uninterrupted quality time with my precious child without I-phone.
Deal with the continual maintenance issues of grooming which include but are not limited to hair, nails, waxing and facials.
Buy and prepare organic healthy meals for my deserving family.
At work call on all my clients. Create a brilliant marketing plan to launch the next project which will be more successful than those in the past resulting it great revenue for the company.
Call my extended family and friends.
Walk the dogs.
Then there is laundry,cleaning,and...
OK I am done complaining. Life is good..there is just not enough time in the day to do it all.
If you can relate please comment.

Friday, August 28, 2009

Celebrity Moms Over 40

Sheryl Crow 47

Cindy Crawford 43

Vanessa Williams 45

Elle MacPherson 44

Nicole Kidman 41

Sarah Palin 45

Sarah Jessica Parker 43

Felicity Huffman 46

Nancy Grace 48

Halle Berry 42

Salma Hayek 43

Marcia Cross 44

Julianne Moore 41

Jennifer Beals 41

Jane Seymour 44

Holly Hunter 47

Helen Hunt 40

Cheryl Tiegs 52

Geena Davis 48

Susan Sarandon 46

Madonna 41

Annette Bening 41

Brooke Shields 40

Emma Thompson 40

Lisa Hartman-Black 46

Mimi Rogers 44

Iman 45

Jerry Hall 44

Beverly D'Angelo 49

Which just goes to show...40 is the new 20!

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

This Little Mommy Went to Work

I was asked a interesting question the other day about being a career woman and my desire to have a child later in life. It was posed by a sweet 20 something gal in my office. She asked, "do you think you will ever stop working to raise your child?" Although I know better, I couldn't help but feel a bit defensive. I quickly gave her the readers digest version of how far women have come, how much we are able to handle, how it is good for our children to see us as women be industrious but at the end of my defense I felt my constant companion "mother guilt" give me punch in the gut.
Have I really waited this long to be a mom to go back to the office? This is a continuous internal dialogue in which I struggle and never win. I love being with my daughter, and I relish every moment we are together (except for the occasional tantrums) however I must admit that I do find satisfaction in my career. I am fortunate to own my own business so in "good times" I am able to work a flexible schedule that is less demanding. Now with the economy in the tank I too must grind out a living working longer hours. I am I being a selfish mom? Ask Dr. Laura (stay at home mom), she would a jump through the phone with a "what do you think?" If you ask Nancy Grace (working mom), first time mom over 40 with twins, you might end up with a prosecuting attorney on your side.
At the end of the day we must ask ourselves, "What are my talents, and how am I using them to benefit those within my sphere of influence to include my precious child?" Whether we decide to work or stay home, life does not come to a halt when we have children at any age.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

A New Generation of Moms over 40

I was actually quite surprised when I went looking for websites or blogs specifically for first time moms over 40 and found very few. With the baby boom of over 40 moms one would expect to find a sea of them. Alas, I find myself hoping to find other moms to connect with on my first blog dedicated to a new generation of fantastic 40 plus moms.
Isabella was born March 1, 2007. My first child at age 41. As a career woman I did not have a maternal bone in my body until my mid 30's. Even then the big question was not "do I want children" as much as "do I want to be a childless woman"? Sound pathetic I know. How was I to know how amazing motherhood could be? I love being a mom...I don't feel like a older mom. The timing could not have been better. I have traveled, gained wisdom, learned that the universe does not revolve around me, worked hard, have more resources to give, have more patience and ultimately appreciate the beauty of life.
Many of you over 40 moms have experienced and gained similar strengths. This qualifies YOU to be the best moms out there! Here is to a new generation of moms over 40! Being a mom over 40 ROCKS!